When layoffs loom, career uncertainty can send us into overconsumption overdrive. We consume career advice, productivity hacks, self-help books, LinkedIn posts, podcasts, and 60-second videos, hoping the next piece of information will finally tell us what to do. Creators make their tidbit of knowledge very enticing. Many have worked in a variety of seductive fields or companies that, on the surface, make them sound like an authority because hearing a career hack from an ex-Google, Apple, fill-in-the-blank leader of the field company.
We live in a world that is addicted to consuming. We overconsume to fill a restless yet never-satisfied hole in our minds. Consuming has been pushed and rebranded as progress when, in fact, we are just deepening our connection with what doesn’t bear gifts.
Over the years, I've considered myself a die-hard self-help connoisseur. I ferociously consumed book after book, thinking it would give me the secret to unlock a career that would catapult me into the limelight. I envisioned being requested for comment and interviews. However, over the past two decades, I noticed that the more I consumed, the less I used.
When you overconsume knowledge, like hoarding food, it eventually spoils. Dealing with spoiled food sucks, especially when you reflect on the cost and effort it now renders useless. The same happens with overconsuming knowledge. We can watch and parrot back all the latest self-help or therapy speak, yet still not live a life that shows transformation.
A typical tip I have seen for those who have been laid off or are grossly underemployed is to follow thought leaders in your field to educate yourself. Like anything in life, moderation is the name of the game. But when you spend your morning scrolling instead of doing what you could be doing, ask yourself: what am I actually getting out of this?
Overconsumption can feel like mentioning goals to friends over brunch and getting the same euphoria as if you actually made the goal a reality. We can feel good about doing something, but it's an illusion that can cause compounding fractures in our confidence and our ability to go the distance in our searches.
I am an advocate for upskilling and learning as having as I’m allergic to narrow-mindedness. You must examine all those saved articles and TikToks and assess whether any of this information is new or helpful, or if it's just fanning my need for comfort. Free knowledge can take you surprisingly far. But knowledge without implementation eventually becomes another form of procrastination. At some point, you have to invest your time and energy into doing the thing that could actually change your circumstances.
How to Turn Career Advice Into Action
One of the best ways to alchemize the knowledge you have acquired is by experimenting. So let's say you're consuming a lot of LinkedIn content; I would take 2-3 tips you have learned and experiment with them. That could mean updating your resume through a more strategic lens, actually sending coffee invites, or upskilling. Once you do that, observe if you are getting closer to your desired outcomes. Experimenting with or applying what you've learned scares most people, and if you're dealing with a layoff or underemployment, that can feel insanely exhausting.
You can also take what you have learned and help others who may be in the same boat. Mastermind groups have been around for decades, and the core idea is bringing together two or more minds to build momentum through shared knowledge. Sometimes we need to actually mingle with others to make the knowledge practical and executable.
Stop Consuming and Start Applying
As 2026 wraps up, I am more focused on ensuring that everything I consume can materialize in my life, or it’s ruthlessly removed. The comfort of spinning my wheels is not comforting. You can blow out your energy by constantly overconsuming content or books.
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Can you have PTSD after a layoff? You can’t escape any major social media platform without seeing some news report or personal post about being laid off. Many women who have sacrificed much of their lives to their career had it wiped away in 30 seconds. When this became a recurring thing, I began to wonder how the short-term and long-term impacts would color a woman’s world.
After experiencing a few layoffs in my career and being someone who has not been able to ascend into the ivory tower of greatness, I have noticed something that I tried to ignore. Layoffs can cause PTSD, and that can impact your ability to enjoy life in its current state, but also color the future in 50 shades of grey.
When PTSD comes into the conversation, most still think of our military who served their country and the atrocities they witnessed. However, this can be expanded to a larger audience as well. Post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) is a mental health condition that's caused by an extremely stressful or terrifying event — either being part of it or witnessing it. Symptoms may include flashbacks, nightmares, severe anxiety, and uncontrollable thoughts about the event. (Post-traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) - Symptoms and Causes, n.d.)
After a layoff, people who are not wealthy have to become extremely scrappy. You may begin to analyze what parts of your life can be disconnected and begin updating your resume. The complete destruction of what was someone’s life, especially if you have been in your career path for 10+ years, is gone. Those familiar faces, the morning routine, and the possibility of that project getting you the shiny promotion are all now a past dream. This abrupt disturbance to normalcy and the swift shift to survival is chaotic.
Depending on how long it takes to find a new role, this can prolong the pain.
Understanding PTSD After a Layoff
A scan on LinkedIn may show you a post of someone saying they have been out of work for 9 months and may lose everything. You may begin negotiating with your sense of self-worth and standards and think any job is better than no job.
Once you're in your new job, you may overcompensate and feel constantly on edge, but may suppress it. Inside your mind, you feel that any small infraction could lead you back to the unemployed streets. For those with any intersectionality, the discomfort and anxiety are even higher because you're in a new place and don’t know the way of the culture.
Layoffs can make you begin to rethink your self-concept and value. You begin to second-guess every choice you have made and wonder if you're even competent. If I had worked harder, I wouldn’t be out of work. For many women, their job is their life. Many use work to escape their personal lives that are unsatisfactory, and for others, their work is what allows them to provide for their family, which may rely on them. The looming pressure of debt and lack of retirement traction can become intrusive.
When you encounter this experience, based on the Mayo Clinic, you may start to exhibit symptoms such as :
Negative thoughts about yourself, other people, or the world.
Ongoing negative emotions of fear, blame, guilt, anger, or shame.
Memory problems, including not remembering important aspects of a traumatic event.
Feeling detached from family and friends.
Not being interested in activities you once enjoyed.
Having a hard time feeling positive emotions.
Feeling emotionally numb
This, over time, can make it harder to settle into your new job, especially if the work isn’t ideal or in the field you once adored. You may also begin to have resentment towards yourself and others who were spared.
The connection between layoffs and ptsd when I work with clients also shows up in a self-limiting restriction for growth. A woman who once felt she could take on the world may take this blow to the chin and eliminate or severely wound her confidence in her ability to have what she desires. This also can make one more prone to burnout, which can then impact one’s performance. In some cases, this can set one up for a repeat layoff, which is not a reflection of the woman’s true performance but rather the lasting impact of past layoffs.
How to navigate layoff aftermath
Extend grace to self
Often we want to ruminate on the past transgressions, as we may have come from a toxic job where we sustained a lot of hate; then to be discarded feels like an extreme blow. I know in my last layoff I felt so much shame as I dealt with a lot of misogyny and covert racism. This took a lot of time while I was searching for a role, so I didn't bring those old pains into the new.
Give yourself grace that something very traumatic occurred, as losing one’s source of income is essential for survival in a world that doesn’t value human life is scary. If you are someone who experienced financial trauma growing up, this can reactivate those pains as well. You are a human who deserves empathy, and it’s ok that you can’t be over it in 3 business days.
Do weekly check-ins
This was one of the key things I did while navigating my last layoff, as I am single and with no support. I would sit up on Monday morning and reflect on the past week's progress and notice if I was doing my essentials for survival: moving my body at least 3 times a week, sleeping no more than 8 hours, and finding something to laugh at.
There were some weeks things went smoothly; those typically were the ones where I had an interview that looked promising, but in weeks where those were snatched, I would see a decline. I also grounded myself when I would spiral by saying, “Right now your rent is paid, and you are not on the streets” out loud. This often re-oriented me to the current reality.
Created a bridge plan
Being someone who is a woman and who happens to fall under the racial construct of being Black, I had to be very mindful of what I needed if I could not find a role that was compatible with what I had before. I have made sacrifices since I was a teen to have a normal life. To honor those sacrifices, I made a bridge plan that would ensure I had my absolute needs taken care of, which would then allow me the space to continue searching for a role that was more aligned with my career and financial goals.
I developed this plan immediately after getting the layoff notification, as it’s easier to do before the anxiety and shame may kick in. This also allowed me to know, from a numbers perspective, what my absolute lowest is to maintain dignity.
Layoffs are sadly a very common occurrence in the state of our world. I am a firm believer that even in the midst of chaos, there is some gift in it. Through layoffs, I was able to see my skills more clearly and hold myself accountable for where I may have suppressed my needs because of old, outdated ways of operating. As someone who is also very spiritually inclined, I can see navigating such perils, as it helps me when working with clients who have experienced this and are grappling with becoming their 2.0 version of self.
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A toxic work environment keeps you underpaid beyond just the money. Women have grown in the workforce by leaps and bounds, doing work that elevates the world. Over time, a woman may begin to feel depleted as she works outside her natural flow. We are taught that to be a boss babe, one needs to do what it means to do it and do it at the highest level. This unfortunately leaves many women vulnerable to toxicity in the workplace, which very covertly begins to chip away at their self-value and confidence.
I remember at a past company, I was so ecstatic to have a role that hit a number I wanted and had been on my vision board for a while. Reaching that milestone, I went after the work aggressively, taking on anything that needed to be done with a smile. Over time, I began to burn out and noticed covert pushback when I spoke up. I was shoved off the cliff once I was no longer useful. Those experiences don’t go away after you start your next role; it often exacerbates those wounds.
Now you're in a new job, trying to mask the wounds of the past by appearing in control, yet inside you are a mess. You are betraying yourself left and right as you are now operating out of fear from toxicity. We often hear about those who come out of narcissistic relationships, but I find a big correlation to toxic work environments as well. Often they eat at your self-concept and, over time, erodes your self-perception and self-trust. You don't fight what you know is wrong; you answer emails when you're off work; you tell yourself a toxic job is better than no job.
In this economy, I will never judge a woman who stays in a role to sustain herself and her family. If anything, I handle these women with extra care, as you sacrificed yourself to try to navigate a world that hates women. The way toxic work environments are set up is completely with disregard for women. It's a churn and burn, and often women who climb the ladder are the fiercest to enforce, as ultimately scarcity is running the show.
Working in a toxic work environment hinders your growth beyond just money, but I will hit those areas as often as that is the part that excites. When working with clients, I often notice a sneaky pattern. Women are the greatest storytellers of all time, and you might ask why I think this. We will rewrite reality to make it more palatable, as no one wants to sit under the weight that they betrayed themselves, allowed some random folks who probably aren't that great to degrade us, so we can pay our mortgage. We will search to the ends of the earth to find something positive or to brutally criticize ourselves as to why things occur.
To make this more impactful, here are 3 ways working in a toxic environment can affect us beyond money. I find that seeing things through a holistic lens helps make short-term and long-term goals richer and more embodied.
1. You Start Leaving Money on the Table
This is the obvious financial consequence, but it happens in several ways.
A toxic environment can make you:
stop negotiating because you're already exhausted
accept the first offer because you desperately need out
stay underpaid because you've normalized being undervalued
stop applying for higher-level roles because your confidence has taken a hit
take on responsibilities without asking for the corresponding title or compensation
become so focused on surviving your current job that you stop looking at the market
The real damage isn't just what you're earning today.
It's the raises, promotions, equity, bonuses, better opportunities, and negotiating leverage you may never pursue.
The most expensive thing about a toxic workplace may be what it convinces you not to ask for.
2. You Start Betraying Yourself to Stay Employed
Toxic workplaces can slowly teach you to override your own judgment. You know the deadline is impossible, but you say yes. You know you're being treated differently, but you tell yourself you're imagining it. You know the workload is unreasonable, but you prove you can handle it. You know you should leave, but you keep waiting for the environment to become what it has repeatedly shown you it isn't. Eventually, self-abandonment starts masquerading as professionalism. And that's dangerous because the behavior doesn't necessarily stay at work.
You can begin becoming the woman who:
overexplains herself
asks for permission instead of making decisions
minimizes her accomplishments
tolerates disrespect because she's used to it
confuses being needed with being valued
performs competence instead of exercising authority
The paycheck is only one part of what you're trading. You are potentially trading pieces of yourself for the privilege of remaining employed.
3. You Lose Years You Cannot Get Back
A toxic workplace doesn't just consume your workday. It can consume the version of your life you were supposed to be building. You spend Sunday dreading Monday. You spend Monday angry at all the fun you didn't have. You spend Tuesday putting out fires that will never result in anything meaningful. You spend Wednesday fantasizing about quitting. By Thursday you're exhausted. By Friday you're too depleted to do anything with your evening. Then you spend the weekend recovering enough to do it again.
And suddenly three years have passed.
Three years you could have spent:
building a business
pursuing a new credential
developing relationships in your industry
moving into leadership
investing
relocating
traveling
dating
creating
figuring out what you actually want your next chapter to look like
This is the part people don't calculate when they say, “At least I have a job.”
You have to ask:
What is this job preventing me from evolving into? Because sometimes the greatest cost of a toxic workplace isn't the money you're losing.
It's the life you're too exhausted to build.
How to move from a toxic work environment?
The above points may have made you feel a bit seen and left you with more questions than answers. It's hard to accept that we have a part in this reality, yet we don't take on more accountability than we should. Unless you are of the elite class, you are more than likely in the working class, which means systems were designed to allow only so much freedom. Even those who may be high-earning, if they were honest, are often in a hamster wheel of toxicity, and it also involves maintaining a certain lifestyle.
You can make 250K a year, but if the work isn't meaningful and holds you with dignity, you are taking poison and can lose everything. I believe all women can earn a higher wage, but that higher wage doesn't just show up in your bank statement; it also reflects your own healing and evolution.
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In this world, choices feel plentiful to the point we become overwhelmed. As soon as you open your eyes in the morning, you are met with choices. Do I get up and move with my day or do I sleep in? Do I open my email or meditate? Do I do my skincare or start working before I even have water? Those tiny choices build strength for wider choices like remaining silent when you see the writing on the wall.
Choices as a woman can produce immense tension, as choices are often rooted in what one wants for their reality. For instance, you could choose to quit your job, but that would impact your family or ability to meet financial obligations, aka rent or mortgage, unless you have a nice safety net. You want people to like you, so you say yes when your gut says no. Or, on a more serious note, you choose not to actively seek out new opportunities, as it would mean having to upgrade your self-image in the world.
Choices scare us as they often require you to take on your sovereignty. Do I make a fuss at work about the culture or do I just remain silent in hopes I can ride the wave? Do I propose better solutions based on my years of insight and my innate intuition, or do I continue playing small? Playing small is also a choice that we make, as in the past, being expansive has come with a cost, be it my income or my life.
Recently, a question was posed for reflection: how long have I been working in some variation, which took me down a very interesting path. After working for 3 decades, I have encountered more not-so-great work experiences than great ones and can see how, over time, my choices began to only be based on survival instead of thriving. There is endless information out there on scaling up your career as a woman, but none truly takes into account the impact of your choices and how, at times, one can feel risk-averse to making them.
Ethics is often thrown around like parsley in the career world to posture some amazing executive presence. In my coaching, I always ground clients in developing their own ethics, as this is the core red thread one will always come back to when deciding whether they made the right choice.
Your ethics are something very unique to your lived experience and what you value. I can not give you those, as one needs to do some deep reflection. For my life, one of my biggest ethics is honesty. In the past, I have had to shrink myself in jobs to try and keep a job. However, as I have gotten older, I have started to be more blunt in how I share information. It's a risk, but at the end of the day, when we leave this life, I want to look at myself with pride vs. embarrassment for being some spineless woman.
2. Examine the full consequence of inaction
The longer you allow yourself to suppress, the more you invest in the suppression of your body. Over the years, that will compound and can have some serious consequences. As someone who is different in a lot of ways, I have seen firsthand in my own life and that of my clients those who put invisible duct tape to their mouths instead of making choices.
There is no judgment in doing this, as society isn't made equal, and for many, the psychological safety is lacking in their lives. I can imagine if I had a deep safety net, I would have voiced concerns or made choices to end roles that were not for my highest good. Sometimes, in our hyper-empty yet positive learning society, we spin a virtuous tale about how things are mere challenges and make you better. In some respects
3. Embrace vulnerability
We live in a world that praises the happy choices to betray self for the sake of marriage or a job. However, embracing the vulnerable parts of self allows us to make the choices we need vs what others need. When I think of vulnerability, I think of the inner child, and how if we were protecting a child, we would make different choices to give them the best shot at success. The same goes for us in making choices.
I always think those who quit jobs that, on the surface, are the dream jobs and titles but, in reality, are a cluster and toxic. Some lose out on money, but if you're too unwell mentally or physically, you don't get to enjoy the money anyway. I'm currently living with chronic illness that is exacerbated by not living in a way that is best suited for me, but not having a trust fund to take the leap makes me have to make smaller choices in order to persevere.
Choices are what make new realities
The reality you are currently living is a sum of the choices you have made in life. Some may not feel like you made them because there was only one option that seemed viable. You get the opportunity to pivot your life when you begin asking yourself why you chose what you do. Sometimes we may be surprised by the reflection of why. Fear is often a big driver, along with survival. I mentioned that the 1st way to build a greater life is having your ethics, as this is the core for evaluating whether your choices will shape your ideal reality.
I want to leave with this thought: Are the choices I'm making in my life today something I would be proud of tomorrow? This doesn't have to be some radical humanity path; it could be: am I proud of not advocating for myself or being honest with those I work with? Am I comfortable in shrinking so that I can feel ok in the illusion of power and safety? In 2026, women have made great advancements, but outdated thought loops and experiences can keep us playing in outdated roles and making ourselves ill.
While meditating recently, the vision of how I expand and lengthen while stretching allows me more comfort. I believe some of the anxiety we feel today is our bodies needing more space to hold us, but the energy has no place to move, so it feels very dense and uncomfortable. If you have ever been in a coach seat on a 4-hour flight, that squeeze does not allow you to show up as your best self.
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Burnout, especially burnout in women, is a subject everyone is really acquainted with these days. I have written about it a few times; you can find those here. There are coaches now focused on helping you be all you can be with burnout. In the corporate world, your ability to suppress is called maturity, and being a woman means you are not linear, which often pushes women throughout their lives, but even more so those who hit their final stage of womanhood.
Often, when women don't know who they are, as society does a really great job of constantly giving a moving target, you will burn out fast out of a deep need for validation. Validation then can provide an olive branch of safety. When we become beyond exhausted, we, on a subconscious level, understand why, but the conscious mind will kick in out of a safety warning.
Who am I to say that how I'm being treated is wrong? What will happen if I do respond with truth I have bills to pay? What will people think of me if I say that how things are going isn't truly nourishing? We will remain stagnant, not out of lack of skills, but out of fear of the consequences.
Burnout in Women
In a past post, I mentioned how misogyny impacts all, but today I want to be direct about how it impacts women in the workplace and how it boosts burnout. We live in a patriarchal society that is powered by capitalism. Women often opt into the girl-boss mentality, which I often see as a tech bro in pink. This co-optation is a survival tactic, as we often hear that women are emotional vs men. In order to climb the corporate tightrope, women often will take on a persona of policing other women and punishing them for their existence if they aren't aligned.
Misogyny creates conditions that make women's burnout distinct. Women aren't just expected to produce. They're expected to produce while nurturing, emotionally regulating others, remaining likable, attractive, agreeable, and endlessly accommodating. The exhaustion isn't simply from working out of alignment but from overperforming.
When you are a woman who operates more in her feminine or even teeters more on the integrated way, you will find the work environment hostile unless you suppress and also put on the big cosplay act. When we operate for decades outside of our organic nature, we burn out fast. Once we finally have no choice but to see reality, we are faced with a hard choice: continue or pivot?
In all my past jobs, I have not been able to be myself, leaving me to mask for more than half the day, 5 days a week. The fear of homelessness often supersedes my desire for human dignity and respect. However, the most damning is that this also impacts your ability to move into new chapters, as burnout isn't just some cutesy word; it has real-life physical damage.
I want to leave you with this question: Are your days leaving you so exhausted that you can't even fathom thinking beyond Where is my wine glass? This is in no way meant to shame you, as having a realistic view can help you feel supported in your next chapter.
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