Self-care is vital to reaching your goals and your overall quality of life. Unfortunately, most think of self-care as spa days and expensive skincare rituals. However, pampering yourself allows you to keep showing up to preserve your energy over the long haul. Pampering doesn’t have to be complicated as sometimes just the simple things can help give us a boost. As a woman, no matter your path in life, it’s your job to manage your needs and ask for help. I will share three signs of burnout in this post and create a realistic pamper routine!
Three signs of Burnout
Burn out is a very slow build-up that begins to chip away at your usual vibrancy. It’s like filling a bucket one drop at a time. Eventually, the bucket loads, yet it’s a surprise. This is the same for our bodies and minds with burnout. Women are often groomed to suppress their basic needs for the needs of others, including children, partners, and careers. For Black and POC women, the need to appear like Teflon is to our detriment because we overlook the breaking points until significant damage is caused. This is not an exhaustive list, but here are some signs you’re burning out:
You don’t find joy/passion in the things you use to do.
Maybe you used to love strutting your stuff and looking cute, or perhaps you are someone who lives in the gym. As burnout starts to hit, you lose the joy of things that should please you. In our society of being booked and busy, we wear that as a badge of honor. It’s a great accomplishment to be in demand. However, one can lose touch with their bodies, and the wear and tear of daily life can leave you numb. We are going through a lot in the world, and it’s easy to stuff our feelings, yet not being able to feel isn’t ok. Being numb doesn’t make you strong.
Physically you feel run down.
With the pandemic still going on, it’s never fun to feel sick. Is that tickle in your throat allergies or Miss. Rona? Is this normal fatigue or something more which is alarming. On the other hand, sometimes, we can get good at pushing past our natural indicators of discomfort. For instance, when you are thirsty but working, you may not hydrate all for the sake of productivity. Unfortunately, in a pop-a-pill society, it’s easy to bypass our internal check engine lights because, for some women, we have been groomed to not tend to our needs, and it’s seen as being selfish or bougie.
Your mind is foggy and cloudy
Missed texts, emails, and calls can become commonplace when you’re burned out. Or maybe your find you are missing the mark in your work with what appears to be careless mistakes. When you’re not operating at optimal, your mind will not be as laser-sharp. For many, it can send you into a negative state of mind and become very dangerous because you could be mentally not there when you are behind the wheel or make a costly error on order.
3 ways to create a pamper routine
Now that we know some of the signs of burnout, let’s discuss how you can create a realistic pamper routine. I emphasize realistic because, let’s keep it a buck, some of us don’t have time for a 12 step skin routine when you have babies pulling on your skirt or your also battling mental or physical disabilities. Being practical helps you to be consistent, which is the ultimate way to prevent burnout before it starts. I will also warn that burnout isn’t something you will bounce back from quickly. It will take time to rebuild, and I have noticed in my own life unless you can permanently fix the source of burnout, be it a job or family situation, you will be prone to suffering from burnout again.
Plan your favorite things into your scedule
It’s easy to have a schedule overloaded with everything but your needs. However, I find scheduling my wax appointments, massages, even Netflix and chill days into my routine works wonderfully. It gives you something positive and genuinely self-nourishing to look forward to. In my experimenting, doing something at least 1-2 a week is optimal, and if you can sneak smaller things in like 5 min deep breathing or a quick walk into your day-to-day, you really will be a winner!
Invest in the best items you use daily
I’m a girls girl who loves to rock silk robes when I’m cameras off on Zoom calls and enjoy delicious perfumes daily. Investing in things I use daily gives me a little taste of luxury throughout the day. I used to be someone who bought stuff out of functionality only. However, over the years, I find myself drawn to the things that look amazing along with function. Investing in yourself and life experience is never a wrong choice, and it doesn’t have to be expensive. So buy the nice mug you will use daily, and I promise you it will put a slight smile on your heart.
Check-in with your self often
Even before the pandemic, most people went through the motions of life. Another day at the office, another basic happy hour or brunch and wash repeat. Checking in with yourself as honestly as possible isn’t easy but is vital to pampering or self-care. You can’t correct what you won’t name, baby. I typically journal each morning, and sometimes I write down how I’m feeling and if there is anything I could do to help myself. Being an active person in your thought life always enables you to be on the preventative flow. Our society doesn’t celebrate self-awareness but knowing what you need allows you to help yourself. You deserve to live a life, not just merely exist.
I hope this was helpful in your journey of being your best you. Need coaching on how to implement your best you journey? Hit the link, and let’s talk.
Spring is in the air and I feel like I needed to get into my bag with some spring makeup! In this post, I’m sharing Wearable Spring Makeup 2021! Even though it’s been a year since we have all been in the home I couldn’t stop the process of the seasons changing. I love spring for its fresh rebirth energy. The flowers, the pastels, and the lightness.
Normally I do a spring cleaning with my beauty and fashion game and this year was no different. However, instead of just getting rid of everything, I challenged myself to come out of my comfort zone with my beauty. I can kinda be a Basic Betty with makeup looks. I know what looks good on me and I stick to those things. Life lately has been screaming at me to switch it up.
I created 2 looks that I think would be great for you at home to do even if it’s just to the living room or to be seen while picking up your curbside orders. The joy of makeup is it washes off so if you don’t like it, you can always start over. The art of transformation takes getting out of your comfort zone and trying new things. We should all have our staple looks, but the joy of being a feminine being is the art of transforming into something different.
Wearable Spring Makeup 2021
Look One Fresh and Clean
This look can be the universal spring/summer look as it’s super fresh and light. This is perfect for my loves who like to pulled together for errands but don’t want to look overdone. I will be honest, this was a hard look for me as I’m so use to full face but I know that as the world opens back up, the desire to be fully done probably won’t come back.
Look Two Spring Drama
Spring for me will always mean pulling out some baby blue eyeshadow and a soft pink lip. This look isn’t for those who are scared of color but I always do it wearable. Being a darker skin woman, I tend to like lighter colors that are more of a wash of color vs trying to really make the color strong. It just gives a nice fresh unfussed with look.
Skincare has become a status symbol for the girls who want to be in the mix. A few years ago makeup brands were dropping a new collection it felt like daily. Now that we are at home more skincare has become the wave. As someone who has tried a lot of skincare of the years, I want to start a new series Is it worth the hype: Herbivore Botanicals. I want to try as many brands that seem to be very popular and see if they are just aesthetic or if they bring it.
The team over at Herbivore reached out and they sent me a few of their popular items. I received their Jade Roller, Coconut Body Scrub, and their Jewel Box which includes mini sizes of their Prism Exfoliating Serum, Bakuchiol Serum, Emerald Hemp Facial Oil, Phoneix Facial Oil, and Lapis Facial Oil.
Right off the back I loved the packaging and the vibes of the brand. Herbivore focus is bring you results that you can see and feel without all the toxic ingredients. They blend this methaphysical and skincare flow as all their items are named after nature. They also try to minimize their carbon footprint by ensuring the packaging is recyclable and reusable.
Is it worth the hype: Herbivore Botanicals
I will be honest I wasn’t expecting miracles. As someone who is in the beauty and skincare sphere I have tried many things all over the spectrum of low to high and some items that I was expecting to bring it especially becuase of the price, just didn’t have the results. Some brands sadly are created to foster a sense of exclusivity with a certain type in mind who wants to appear as though they are higher than.
The first product I tried was their Coconut Milk Body Polish which is a 100% natural body scrub that hydrates, softens, smooths, and renews the skin with nourishing Coconut Milk, Organic Virgin Coconut Oil, and gently exfoliating sugar per their website. I wanted to try this as the winter months means I have to up my body care game. I will say this smells like coconuts naturally not from a synethic scent. It is effective without all the frills and extra’s you may find in some body scrubs. You get a 8oz glass jar for 36.00. I feel for a scrub the price point is a bit high as their aren’t any actives but it’s still very effective as my skin felt so delicious.
Now on to the skincare products. Right off the bat, I will say I’m a bit mixed about. The first combo I tried is their Prism Exfoliating Glow Serum which promises to exfoliate naturally and effectively with Prism’s 12% blend of natural fruit and plant-based AHAs including Lactic, Glycolic, and Malic Acids plus a 3% concentration of natural Willow Bark BHA, and Vitamin C from Kakadu Plum Extract along with their Emerald Deep Moisture Glow Facial Oil which claims to provide deep moisture meets flash absorption in this skin calming and seriously hydrating blend of Omega-rich and irritation soothing Hemp Seed Oil and environmental stress defending Adaptogens including Shiitake Mushroom and Ashwagandha Root.
This combo was a nice mixture as my skin was in need of moisture. I used pretty bland products that night in order to make sure nothing entangled on my skin. I found the serum to have a nice oil like texture which blended well with the facial oil. The next morning I woke to skin that was nice and supple with no reactions.
A few nights later I tried the Bakuchiol Retinol Alternative Smoothing Serum along with the Emerald Facial oil. The Bakuchiol Retinol Alternative Smoothing Serum is supposed to be gentle enough for the most sensitive skin types, Bakuchiol works with the skin to refine the appearance of fine lines and wrinkles with the power of natural botanicals. I liked the texture of this which is a jelly like texture. Instead of mixing this with the facial oil I mixed the oil with my moisturizer as I wanted to ensure my skin would be hydrated.
The next morning my skin was a little dry which surprised me a bit but over the course of the next few days I noticed my skin felt very supple and bouncy which is the path we like. I feel if I continue use I will then see if this brings the results that this product claims.
The other 2 facial oils really didn’t appeal to me and so at the time of this blog post, I haven’t ventured into using them. One thing about being a beauty content creator, you have to pace yourself with introducing products into your routine unless you like toying with the consequences.
Now the vedict, do I think you should rush out and purchase? Yes and no. Yes if you are wanting to explore the world of skincare and it’s a hobby of yours. If you need a great facial oil I would also recommend this brand especially the Emerald Facial Oil. Now my no is for those who have well established skincare routines with products that have shown themselve worthy. I love skincare and love trying new things but if I wasn’t a content creator I probably wouldn’t go for this as the price points are a bit much for what they are. They are effective and if you like a bit if aesthetic with your skincare you would be in a good place.
I hope this new series Is it worth the hype: Herbivore Botanicals was helpful to you. Have you tried anything from the brand before? And after reading this review, has anything tickled your fancy? Let’s chat in the comments!
We all have gotten pretty comfortable at home but there comes a time when you need to snatch it together for those on-camera meets or interviews. I have adopted a more natural aesthetic as I’m at home and wanted to share my natural beauty makeup for everyday look! I love focusing on enhancing instead of constructing for every day looks.
When I think of natural makeup the focus is on the skin and adding a little oomph to your best feature. For me my eyes are my favorite, the remind me of a warm cup of dark roast coffee. Making sure your taking care of you skin will make things flow better. Some are blessed with a flawless complexion and can add a little concealer, mascara and gloss and boom.
For today’s look, I started out with very hydrated skin. I used my fav hydrating mask from Topicals, Like Butter, you can check out my review but it’s the greatest. After my skin was prepped I created my own tinted moisturizer by using my MAC Oil-Free Moisturizer with my Nars Soft Matte Foundation.
If you are a darker lady like me finding a tinted moisturizer can be a struggle, so making your own with your fav foundation is delightful!
After evening out my skin, I used my OG Juvia’s Place Warrior 1 palette as it has the most gorgeous warm browns. You can do whatever tickles your fancy but I find matte shadows are great for everyday and show up better on camera. I also find you can’t goof up mattes as much as you can a shimmer shade. Instead of using my traditional liner, I just used the black eyeshadow to create a line. The results is a soft smokey line. I topped everything with mascara and your good.
On the lips, I rocked my Fenty Beauty Cream Gloss in Fenty Glow which I really feel is the official nude for colored girls lol. I love how thick and creamy this gloss is and it’s not sticky. I used my beloved Makeup Forever liner in Limitless Brown which if you don’t have you need to go buy now!
The way of the world of mask and Zoom calls aren’t going anywhere fast. So instead of allowing myself to not do what makes me happy I’m enjoying my makeup even if I am the only one who sees it in person. I know for many, this time has amplified that we in the past did a lot for out of obligation and for likes. I enjoy makeup because it’s been a long standing vechicle of creativity for me.
Did this post inspire you to do your own natural beauty? If so, post it on your socials and tag me in it. I want to see so I can fangirl you!
Being single can be fun at times. I can come and go as I please and can enjoy whatever I’m in the mood for. However, there are times of the year that it would be nice to have a special someone. But until that day happens I present to you the single hottie v-day self-care guide! You deserve all the fun and pleasure in the world.
In a previous post, I shared the importance of being gentle with yourself. This is very important during the holidays when you may not have all the love you desire. If you focus on what you do have more of that will come. Don’t close yourself off to the possibilities as you never know what can happen.
The Single Hottie Vday Self-Care Guide
During this festive time of the year, in the past, I would place an order for my fav meal or if I was feeling extra I would create a quick Instacart order so I could make my favorite things. Cooking for me has always felt like magic because your taking an idea and making it into reality. You can add a fav bottle of wine or other spirits to make this time even more enjoyable.
Next, I always make sure a few days ahead of V-day to either have my house cleaned and all my favorite nighties are clean and ready. As a single lady, some of us will forgo enjoying nice sleepwear because no one is seeing us. Well let me ask you, are you blind? Don’t you count as someone? I don’t like seeing myself in tattered items that may have been an ex’s tee shirt! Ditch those and invest in some nice silk or lace bedtime wear.
On the day
On the big day if I can I start my day off slowly and just relish in love. We get so busy trying to be superwoman we often don’t enjoy just being. I may take some time to meditate or write in my gratitude journal with a focus on love. I may even make some tea and get back into bed while doing my meditation time. It’s something magical about slow intentional time.
Next, I go ahead and ensure all is prepped for my meal, or depending on what I’m in the mood for it may be already prepared the night before so I can just savory it later. I will then make a nice breakfast or some mimosa’s lol. My theme throughout the day is an intentional pleasure.
As the day goes on I will spend time doing things I want to do be it shopping, working out, or taking a festive nap. In the past, I have gotten dressed up for my fun time if I was going out as you enjoy to be festive!
You need to take time enjoying yourself and if the world was open I would also go to a museum or symphony but earlier in the day in order to not be packed in with the couples.
Now that the day is coming tonight I pull out all the stops for my spa night in. In the past, I have hired a masseuse to come and do an in-home massage which ladies is top tier. There is nothing like taking a hot bath at home, enjoying a 90-min deep tissue massage, and then sauntering off to your bed. The best sleep ever!
My at-home spa night typically consists of full-body exfoliation, one of my fav products is the SkinFix Body Scrub. It’s a delightful body peel and polish in one. After my scrub, I indulge in a nice bath be it a milk bath or flower-infused bath. I take my time and savory the moment with soft music and candles and also enjoying some chocolate covered strawberries. I wrap it all up with nice body oil and give myself a nice mani/pedi. A facial and possibly a deep conditioning treatment also is enjoyed.
After spending time tending to my beauty I end the night with my delicious meal, a movie, or even talking to my friends. Self-care as a single lady is not optional but required and Valentine’s Day just gives me an excuse to go extra with my time.
Don’t wait until the stars align and you meet Mr. or Mrs. Perfect as they could not come for a while or ever. I also know that some can become salty because they see others being loved out loud on social media. If this is you, I urge you to log-off and just enjoy yourself. When we focus on our own love more love will come.
Now I hope The Single Hottie V-day Self-Care Guide was helpful as I want all my loves to bask in their glory right now vs tomorrow. How are you going to spend Valentine’s Day? Let’s chat in the comments!
Bedtime should be a sacraed place for you. Sleep is such an important part of growth. You are able to heal, restore and be refueld. As someone who suffers from bouts of insomnia pretty regularly and have much of my life, I can tell you how boosting your beauty bedtime routine will boost your life!
When I haven’t slept well for a few days my ability to think positively, be productive and even my eating habits are affected. Being tired can make things that really don’t matter become a huge mountain. On the flip side when I am well rested for days I awake and have the drive to make my dreams a reality.
I use to be #teamnosleep or #nooffdays when it came to going after my goals. But after noticing how I would crash and burn because I wasn’t well rested, I began to take notice of my life. When you don’t value yourself you will not do things that are for your future self. For example, you know you have a big interview coming up, you would ensure to eat a great meal, take a nice relaxing bath and go to bed. But when you unconciously don’t value you, you will do things that will sabtage your goals.
Beauty rest also helps you to heal physically so you can workout more powerfully. The worst workout is one when I didn’t get much sleep as my endurance and determination are shot. The best thing I could do is some nice hot yoga, take a cool shower after and get real intimate with my pillow. Sleep is a requirement ladies! It’s not up for discussion as you deserve to pour from a full cup.
Here are some ways to boost your beauty bedtime routine
1. Create a soothing essential oil diffuser mix and tea
2. Make sure you set the mood
I have to sleep when it’s cool, the room is dark and free of distractions like my laptop. I have my phone on night time mode so no calls or text are coming in and the blue light is turned into a warmer light to help me to be relaxed.
3. Light stretches
I’m not sure how I stumbled on yoga squats but they are a game-changer. I will do some light stretches and yoga moves like a forward fold in order to go down into a yoga squat. Yoga squats help to open up the hip which as ladies we hold a lot of tension, emotion, and energy there especially as we are working from home. I will hold for about 3-5 minutes and as I come out the move I feel a huge release.
Once I’m in the bed I will jot down a few things I’m grateful for or if I’m dozing off I will think about them. I like to think of the good things in my life when I wake up and as I go to sleep. It helps to center me and keep me in a state of constant gratitude.
I hope these tips help you boost your beauty bedtime routine as your beauty goes beyond being cute but your whole being. Let me know in the comments some things you do at night to make your sleep a win!